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Celebrating Thanskgiving: Being thankful for the family we create


Thank you

Happy Thanksgiving – I give thanks for having you in my life

Whether you have one or many people in your life, the people we choose to make our ‘family’, create a special bond that give meaning to our lives. So on this day of giving thanks, let us make time to honour those we care about and show them our appreciation and love.

Happy New Year 2014! A plan for the present moment


Happy New Year! My New Year’s started off on a great note. I fell asleep after putting the kids to bed, and didn’t wake up until this morning! Gah!!

So much for planning to celebrate with my hubby by the fireplace at the stroke of midnight!

Having children has taught me to really let go of set schedules and imperfections…even when events which disrupt my plans initially produce feelings of disappointment or discontent. Like any other major life change that requires our full attention (a birth, a death, a separation, an injury or illness, etc), raising young children requires a considerable amount of effort that we often neglect to acknowledge when we’re still in the midst of it all.

The last week brought many unexpected surprises that completely through our Christmas plans for a loop. First, most of our city suffered a power outage after the ice storm that hit just a few days before Christmas. We were so fortunate to have a gas stove and fireplace at least which we willingly shared with our neighbours. Then, a few days later and still in the dark, we braved another misadventure. Under a fantastic little headlamp, we cleaned up projectile vomit from our 4 year old and later our 6 year old that hit the blankets, beds and walls. Even our 1 year old was not immune to this virus, but thankfully she didn’t start until 36 hours later. The dinner we had planned for Christmas Eve? Pouff! Gone. Christmas Day dinner with family at a friend’s house? Also gone. We ended up eating cold pizzas under candlelight and wishing the holiday from $%^*& would just end. When not dealing with sick kids, the days were spent cleaning out the fridge, and cleaning up debris from all the branches that had fallen outside. There were nice moments as well that made the experience less trying….like friendly neighbours helping one another or coming into chat by the fire (before the kids got sick!); and also the beautiful yet tragic aftermath of the ice storm that left tree branches bent over or on the ground, coated in a thick clear, impenetrable ice.

And then, after 3 days without power, the electricity and heat returned, and a good 5 days after that, our children’s health finally returned. So things eventually turned out ok, after all! But it did made me realize how very dependent our plans are to our surrounding environment and situation. Pushing to achieve what you’d planned on a certain day, may be spinning your wheels needlessly. Sometimes you just have to accept the situation you’re placed in and get down to the real business at hand!

So this year, I still PLAN to:

a) get back in shape with a former workout routine involving qigong, running, cycling, swimming, and skiing

b) get back to healthier eating: eat less, drink more (and whenever possible choose whole, simple foods whose production is easy on the environment and our body)

c) be more fun around my kids (less work, more laughter and play!)

d) be a better partner (listen with a soft heart to my husband, and create a supportive and nurturing environment for us both to grow professionally as well as a  loving couple)

e) be present for my extended family (set aside time to help my mum and my siblings more)

f) create the practice of my dreams (this is a biggy, but I’m working on it!)

But if things don’t fall into neat little time slots or events, I will not spend more than is necessary to dwell on it. I will simply MOVE on ūüôā

May this year bring you all that you could wish for and more and may the little things make you truly happy.

Love,
M.

 

 

 

Letting Go of the Past, Living in the Present


Today marks a special day for me and my family. On this day, August 20, 2009, I was a very pregnant woman on her due date. I was also a daughter who was about to lose her father after a relatively short yet intense battle with cancer.

Our story of a family going through the daily challenges of watching a loved one first become very ill, and then eventually pass away is not unique. So many, many people will endure this difficult process. Yet, there is so much to be learned from it…so much of our experiences that we can share and learn from one another. In the face of adversity our strength, our endurance, our spirit are tested. Decisions that need to be made over a person’s health and well-being, and also their eventual passing, are ones that no one can ever sufficiently prepare you for and will challenge your core values like nothing else.

There are many things that are said to one another over the course of a lifetime. There are many ups and downs that we as a family have weathered together. Storms of mistrust, separation, financial distress. And then there are the rainbows and pots of gold that come like a gift from the heavens: birth and prosperity and renewal of vows, renewal of love, renewal of spirit. All things are not black or white. Perspectives change, we grow, we unite, and we learn to care…once again.

Our family happens to be very close despite all our differences and so a lot has been shared over the years…it is surprising how life circumstances can bring a family together in ways they never thought possible. My father became closer to us in his last few years knowing that this was the only chance he would get to impart his vast knowledge to us, to share his beliefs, and to show us time and time again how much he really cared. I miss him now but am comforted by the thoughtful words, the warm embraces, and the daily expressions of love and hope we were able to exchange with one another. Love is so very healing.

These small yet beautiful exchanges are possible if we can really accept that the present is all we really have and learn to let go. Let go of past dreams that no longer live up to our present dreams. Let go of painful experiences and hurtful words that have no importance in the now. Let go of wants, needs, desires. Allow love to enter in all its beautiful ways and fill the void of emptiness and despair.

A wonderful blogger and former classmate, Leigh has this to share about letting go of the past in her August 19th post on Lost Causes

A part of me feels infused with the energy and spirit of my father today. I see him sometimes as a fluttering Monarch butterfly, light and free; a sweet singing songbird stopping by for a nibble of bird seed. I see him in the eyes of a passing stranger, older yet wiser. I see him in the eyes of my baby, whose smile and bright eyed innocence is so clear and strong and true. Our loved ones still exist for us in these daily happenings. I will savour these moments. They are my father’s presence in my every day.

With hope and love,
Meling

Milkshake anyone? The Amazing Chocolate Milk Adventure


Had any gravity defying experiences lately? My daughter’s chocolate milkshake sure did!

Last week,¬†as¬†we were driving home from our Ontario-mandated¬†Family Day Weekend in Ottawa (which I fully aprove of, btw!!), we made a much needed lunch stop in Brockville. About an hour after, one of my lovely little daughters needed to make an extra stop. So we pulled over at the next rest station, got out to tend with business, and low and behold, what did my husband find? Perched above¬†the roof of our car, looking ever so innocent with both straws and an open spout was my daughter’s unfinished chocolate milk drink from lunch! How the chocolate milk managed to stay steady on its feet while we traversed Hwy 401 at speeds that dared to go close to the legal¬†¬†limit¬†(mentioned ‘close to’ so as not to¬†risk incriminating myself!), is beyond me.¬†What was even more incredible was my dear husband who was¬†clearly not concerned about¬†what the¬†chocolate milk had just been through and was considering drinking it still! Those Scots!

Have a wonderful day!